How do we remember them?

Posted on May 31 , 2011 in Announcements

How do we remember them?

Years ago when I was a kid in Rahway, New Jersey, there was a river behind our house.  It was the Rahway River.  Us kids used to like to go to the banks and throw rocks into the river.  The city had put all of these wonderful rocks along the banks for a build up against floods, so we just took it that they wanted us to have more fun… just throwing the rocks.  Whatever way we threw the rock it left a ripple there.  After the rock had sunk out of sight there was still the ripple going out to the ends of the river.  That is how life is.  One life that is lived leaves such an effect upon the world around it that we cannot ignore what has taken place.  So that we ask what impact does one life have upon another?

As a hospice chaplain who has been in various situations with the people that I have served, I have noticed some things about folks that are dying.  First, they do not want to be alone.  Secondly, all of them in their own way have some hope of eternity, which is difficult to explain for someone who says they don’t believe in an afterlife, yet and still it is there.  And lastly, they want to be remembered.  This last element intrigues me as I eulogize people, some of which I have not met until the time of their death.  The Bible gives clear instruction on the idea of memorials.

Both the Old and New Testaments give rituals to examine/observe in order to cope with the loss of a loved one.  In Joshua 4:5 the people of Israel are crossing over the Jordon River and God stopped the river in order for them to cross over on dry ground.  Joshua 4:7 states … “ These stones are to be a memorial to the people of Israel forever.” During the Last Supper, Jesus gives a command for his followers at the last supper.   Luke 22:19 – “This do in remembrance of me.”

In these examples, they set apart specific time for mourning, connected a real life with physical reality, and they called for mourning to done in community.   These are perfect examples of how we should remember those we know and love.

When remembering others:
1)    Give intentional time of remembrance.  Time gives place for the special un-microwavable things to brew/consummate.  Remember in school when you had a friend with a silly idea and you were in class about to laugh but the teacher would not let you be silly just then?  You just couldn’t hold it back.  Some of the funny events or happy times are great for reflecting upon someone who has meant so much to us. Laughter should not be held in and weeping should not be suppressed until it has been realized/ expressed.

2)    Tie the thoughts of loved ones to material elements.  Every person should be remembered in the context of real time.  They lived on this earth, they laughed, loved and made a difference in this place.  They came into contact with a physical world.  Remember the Classic Movie “It’s a wonderful life”  Remember what the angel Clarence said to George in the story?  He said, “Each man’s life touches so many other lives, when he isn’t around it leaves an awful hole doesn’t it.”

*A real life that has been lived.. needs acknowledgement with material substance to connect it with time, our time.

3)    As best you can, share that time of remembrance with someone else with similar feelings.  Gives time for real weeping/mourning and a renewal of who we are and how the lost loved one would want us to go on.  Man was made a spiritual being as well as a physical.  We relate and respond to our surroundings.  The context of memorial is healthy because it gives place for remembering how our loved one related to others, gave of themselves or effected change in our hearts.    Rom 12:14 says, “Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse.  Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” Thru every phase of life, find healthy ways to cope with events and circumstances through relationships.  This time can also be very effective in building new relationships that help us to continue on in life and not get stuck in mourning.

Conclusion:   What impact does one life have upon another?  As we have been made Mind, Body, Spirit, we give our mind the time to remember how they touched us.  We help our body to adjust to the space they have made in our lives.  And we allow a place for our spirit to connect with others to keep the memory of them alive, forever.

So in the middle of this time of memory we will do it:  In the spirit of a real or sacred time, With the duty of using real material items.  Within the intimacy of real relationships.

Now may the God of peace make you holy in every way, and may your whole spirit and soul and body be kept blameless until that day when our Lord Jesus Christ comes again. NLT 1 Thessalonians  5:23

~ Former Assistant Pastor Horace Cutter

Victories Over Evil

Posted on May 24 , 2011 in Announcements

By Former Asst. Pastor Horace Cutter

As I got out and about this morning, I continued to hear the reports of the killing of Osama Bin Laden by American Military Forces. I felt happy and proud to be an American. After facing the terror in Sept 11, 2001 that we all remember and can look back to cringe over, we are so grateful of the military blood and effort that brought about this great feat. I also remembered the relief and resultant effect of Adolf Hitler’s death in Germany many years ago. I was not thought of at the time (my boys would disagree with me) but having an appetite for history for so many years and reading up on the wars we have fought I have found that evil men seem to crop up at their own special time in history. The only good thing I have to say about evil men coming on the scene is that they give a definite lesson that good and evil do exists.

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Pray for the people of Japan

Posted on Mar 13 , 2011 in Announcements

By Former Asst. Pastor Horace Cutter

We are all praying for the people in Japan. They have experienced a double disaster. May the glorious God of mercy and security, rescue the lives, hearts and minds of those who were affected by the earthquake and tsunami of 3-10-11. Our Father in Heaven has the peace and providence to help each person to come to the knowledge of His gracious presence at this terrible time.

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Sermons Are Now Available Through iTunes

Posted on May 03 , 2010 in Announcements

If you enjoy hearing the Word of God from Pastor Cobbert, then you are in for a treat. I am proud to announce that you can now subscribe to Redemption Fellowship’s sermons via iTunes (and yes it is free)!  If you have an iPod, iPhone, iPad, a computer, or any other device that can play a MP3, then this is for you.  You can now get your sermons downloaded to your computer (or your device) right as they are posted.  You can click -> HERE <-  to get started, or you can just search for “Redemption Fellowship” in the iTunes Store.  Thank you in advance for help spreading the word, and being a witness to our growth.

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